Ashley is 16 years old. She sometimes reports drink wine and smokes pot, often when on dates. One of her anger triggers is when someone invades her personal space. Ashley goes on a double date with her friend Kayla, who is 17 years old. The guys ask them if they want to go to a party where they can drink and toke.
What should Ashley do?
Think about the risk of drinking and smoking pot—I may not be able to think straight and make good choices—and say no, suggesting they go to the movies instead.
Say, "Whatever you want to do sounds good to me."
Tell him she will go to the party, but that she isn't really in the mood for drinking/smoking pot.
Later on that night, she gets so angry she wants to scream when her date accuses her of flirting with another guy.
What should Ashley do?
Think about the consequences of losing her temper—If I tell him off, he may get angry and hit me—instead choosing to tell him how she feels in a calm voice, staying safe by not leaving the group to argue with him, and think about not dating him anymore.
Suggest going somewhere private to talk about it. Deny it and tell him off—he can't tell you what to do.
Tell him you are sorry if you hurt his feelings, that he is the only guy for you, and give him a big kiss in front of the other guy.
