Delida is 14 years old. One of her anger triggers is when people mess with her personal stuff. She has gotten in trouble at school for fighting and will get kicked out with one more fight. Her older brother is in a gang and sometimes sells drugs. He asks Delida to hold some pills for him for a few days, as a favor.
What should she do?
Tell him no gently, but firmly.
Do him the favor. After all, he is her brother. It's not like he's asking her to do anything with them, just hold them.
Help him find another safe place to keep the drugs, but not in her personal property.
Delida decides to hold the drugs for him in exchange for $25 after he sells them, because she could really use the money. She puts them in a little zippered pouch inside her purse. The next day at school during a fire drill, she leaves her purse in the classroom. When she comes back in, she discovers a girl going through her purse. She grabs the purse and yells, "What are you doing?" The girl shrugs, says, "looking for some gum," and goes to sit down. Delida is very mad, but this girl has a reputation of fighting dirty.
What should she do?
Grab the girl's arm, pull her around hard, and say, "You're a thief. What did you take?"
Walk up to the girl and say, "If anything is missing, you're in trouble."
Sit down, take a breath, and look through her purse to see if anything is missing or disturbed. Say calmly to the girl, "I don't like it when people mess with my stuff."
