Carlos loves to play basketball and even dreams of playing on a pro team someday—he's that good. He plays for several hours every day. One of his anger triggers is when he messes up during a game, especially when people are watching. He sometimes gets in fights during games, and has started bringing along a gun, just in case. Sometimes Carlos also smokes crack, usually at parties or at his friend's Michael's house. One day, Michael wants to get high before they start to play.
What should Carlos do?
Say he'll smoke just a little bit, but only take a couple hits and try not to inhale much.
Go ahead and get high. It might even help his game.
Say he doesn't want to, because he's ready to play and he doesn't want to mess up his game.
Carlos decides to smoke a little before the game, and ends up playing badly. He is starting to get really frustrated,
especially when one of the guys he usually beats starts making fun of him and getting in his face. When Carlos misses an easy shot, the other guy laughs and makes a joke about him to the other players. Carlos explodes and shoves the guy down, hard. The other guy jumps up and takes a swing at Carlos.
What should Carlos do?
Tell him he has a gun and will take care of him after the game.
Hold up his hands and say, "Whoa, I blew it. Sorry man, let's play."
Back up and say, "Hey, man, you don't want to do that. I've got a gun and you don't want to fight me. I would rather play than fight".
